I heard a song from my youth on the radio the other day. I cringed. It was painful to listen to. Then I remembered I hated that song even when it came out. And yep, I still hate it.
Hate is a strong word so I know I should be careful throwing it around. I’m not sure if revile is better but we’ll go with that for now. This is not an attempt to judge the song (which is why I don’t name it). Just to point out that I still don’t like it. As opposed to songs or other art that I didn’t get when I was younger but get now.
A related but different behavior is when people look back at music or other art and say “I can’t believe I liked that. That is such crap. I’m embarrassed to have had such bad taste.”
That attitude just bugs the crap out of me. Why are people in such a hurry to disavow their past? Unless you have done some really bad stuff, you shouldn’t do it.
It’s like revisionist history. Judging the behavior of a certain time with knowledge or experience in hand that wasn’t available at that time. I mean, I guess it’s good that you can look back and see that you’ve gained knowledge and experience and maturity. We should certainly all strive to grow.
But for too many it’s a negative retrospective. That music was so bad. Those movies sucked. I sucked.
Why all the negative vibes, man? Did you enjoy that music at the time? Did you connect with those movies? I bet you did. Could you watch a movie aimed at young teens now and really connect? Probably not and so what.
Check your fragile ego at the door, please. Are you afraid your current friends will snub their noses at you if they find out you liked 90210? “I can’t believe you liked that.” Of course you liked it, you were fourteen.
That’s like being ashamed because you liked Barney when you were five. Shut up! We all get that you grew up. No one cares.
I was typing so hard I forgot the point I was trying to make. Oh, got it. Don’t be so hard on your current, future and especially past self. It’s no more healthy to belittle your past self than it is to belittle someone else. Show yourself some love. It’s OK. You can do it.